Had to let her go

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Had to let her go
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Mon, 03-19-2012 - 5:27pm

I'm the only guy she's been with in regards to

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 8:04pm
Sorry big guy, I don't think you will ever get out of the minor leagues. You know darn well you could get some any time you wanted from ex-gf, FWB, new pickup, etc. Your "holiday" is much more a matter of choice. You are not being deprived. You are holding out for more appropriate circumstances.

The part at the end of your marriage counts. But sounds like that wasn't very long between sessions. So while you are "doing without", you are not being rejected, which pushes me to think you don't even get to count the days yet.

Happy to open this up for a ruling from the other HLs.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 02-07-2003
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 10:34pm
I am with you Hold. I actually think on this board days without a partner don't count. Even if thy do Glenn you still have a lot more time to put in before you feel the pain.
Jen
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Registered: 12-10-2009
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 5:22am

Yes, for me the pain had nothing to do specifically with how long I'd gone without, that was "easy".

The torture is from the feeling that your life partner doesn't understand you sufficiently, or is unwilling or unable to help you with something fundamental to your nature.

So I've never agreed wtih the monastic

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 9:42am

...monks and nuns have it easy by

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 11:01am

Y'all are cracking me up this morning!

Sorry, Glenn, I have to side with them on this one. Its your choice to be sexless right now, you even said there are some FWB options that you are turning down. IMO, since you are now the LL in the situation, you don;t get to count these days.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 4:09pm

The majority has spoken and so be it, I don't get to count my days.

However, me LL? Them's fightin' words!

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 5:50pm
>>>>> That reminds me of many times when I've heard about a celebrity cheating on their super hot spouse. You often hear people saying, how could such and such person ever cheat on THAT?! Yet we have no idea what really happens in private. If said super hot spouse isn't interested in sex, imagine the torture of having to be in that situation! <<<<<

I think the cheating goes both ways. Remember, these celebrities do not go to the office at 9 am and get home and 5. One of them is on a movie set halfway around the world from the other. They haven't had sex in a month because they haven't been on the same continent together. The one on set is staring at some topless member of the opposite sex all day while they film a beach scene. Then they go back to their trailer with their co-star to "work on lines" while both are in bathing suits. And then we wonder why they have affairs!

And glenn, I am sure you know we are just teasing. You can count your days as much as you want. We won't have any sympathy for your "plight", but the US always needs more people with strong math skills, so count away!

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 4:44am

The problem is that the markings on the wall ruins the decor.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 12:31pm

I spent all of Sunday with my ex coworker and her three kids. We had a great time and,

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 12:42pm

I just hope you do not regret these decisions.

dragowoman

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