He can't be attracted to me

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2008
He can't be attracted to me
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Sun, 09-14-2008 - 8:51pm
It's been 2 weeks since we've had sex.

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-20-2007
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 3:31pm
Can you watch the porn with him?
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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 5:30pm

We have discussed the differences between masturbation and partner sex many times.

When you see it coming, duck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2008
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 7:54pm

Thanks for your reply.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2008
Tue, 09-16-2008 - 8:12pm

Hi Hold,


I've read some of the threads.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2007
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 7:04am
I don't understand? You do tri's but he isn't attracted to your body? For example: I've lost some wt. I used to be about 165, 5'9". I've been training really hard and have gone down to 157. Body fat is 5% now. My wife says I'm too thin. I think I'm in the best shape of my life. What does your DH think of your body?
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 12:37pm

He only comments on my body when we are intimate.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2007
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 1:26pm
Do you feel rejected that he does that INSTEAD of being with you? My wife would get upset too with me if I masturbated but she would NOT
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 5:06pm
Yes, it's the instead of having sex with me part.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 7:39pm
That's what happened with my ex. He used to wait until I was at work, and then he would spend a lot of the time downloading porn and masturbating, yet he didn't think there was anything wrong with not having sex for 1-3 months at a time! In the case of my ex, I believe that he had unresolved intimacy issues as a result of being with his ex. He was afraid to get too close to me, and be vulnerable, in case I hurt him. Any mention of our sex life, or our disintegrating relationship was met with defensiveness and him placing the blame on me.

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2007
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 4:57am

I just don't get it. Why if you have a willing patner you want to do it by yourself. I only did it because I had no choice. I don't really like to but what are you going to do if you have not had sex in three weeks?


By the way I don't want to sound stupid but what is a Brazilian?


Ciao

 

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