He does not want me

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2008
He does not want me
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Thu, 12-11-2008 - 7:24pm
I find my self battling trying to have my boyfriend to be some what sexually attracted to me. But he more so say things like go give it to someone else. I am to the point I am unsure if he is cheating on me and trying to pan me off to another man. I am very frustrated and to the point of wondering if he is cheating. Though I am truly inlove with him I feel he is unattractive to me, and wants me to be with someone else to give him grounds to be with other women . This is hurting me deeply. I am lost and do not know what to do.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2004
Thu, 12-11-2008 - 7:36pm

This doesn't make any sense to me. What reason would there be to keep you around if he was cheating and he was not interested in you? Are you supporting him financially? Are there any kids involved? Why would he need an excuse?

The simplest answer is often the correct answer: he's likely just LL. Nothing you can do is going to change that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2007
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 10:32am

<< find my self battling trying to have my boyfriend to be some what sexually attracted to me. But he more so say things like go give it to someone else. >>


Based on his own words... he's just not that into you, for whatever reason.


You shouldn't have to "battle" to get someone attracted to you... especially someone you're not married to (i.e. no legal ties to put up with this crap, and assuming you don't have kids together).

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 4:41pm
Honestly, I think he is spelling it out to you. You're fighting a losing battle. Break it off before it gets more painful for you.