Could you give us a little more info
"He never wants to have sex. We talk about it. He is always ready for a blowjob, but he rarely touches me during it. I have only been with two men in my life him and me ex. When my boyfriend and I have sex it is awesome."
Not a lot clear information here as I'm not sure who you enjoyed having sex with
"I do enjoy giving him oral sex, I thought by doing that could lead to him wanting to have intercourse."
I thought this too.
Wow, I could definately understand your pain. I too am 8 years apart from my bf and I am older. I would like sex several times a week (we do not live together). He seems content with once a week- and I mean once. If I try to give him a blow job- a lot of times he denies me- because for him if I do that he will do something back to me. I am incredibly frusterated that he denies me- and of course, he keeps telling me its "his fantasy for me to be waking him up with a blow job"- when I try to- forget it. We haven't been dating for that long either and I am getting sexuall frusterated.
My bf doesn't seem to see it as a problem- he thinks that "he wants to relax" - and sex isn't relaxing? Personally he seems to get a bit freaked over getting messy- he wants to get up right away and clean up his mess 10 seconds after we finish or he freaks. Sex isn't relaxing? Ugh.
Read the first post in the thread "My Top Ten Ways to Identify a LL" in the Articles and Resources area.
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