He never wants to have sex with me

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Registered: 08-31-2008
He never wants to have sex with me
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 2:06pm
Here is my prob, My boyfriend and I are 8 years
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Registered: 09-30-2007
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 9:58pm

Could you give us a little more info

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 12:41pm

"He never wants to have sex. We talk about it. He is always ready for a blowjob, but he rarely touches me during it. I have only been with two men in my life him and me ex. When my boyfriend and I have sex it is awesome."

Not a lot clear information here as I'm not sure who you enjoyed having sex with

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 4:23pm

"I do enjoy giving him oral sex, I thought by doing that could lead to him wanting to have intercourse."


I thought this too.


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Registered: 04-02-2005
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 5:37pm

Wow, I could definately understand your pain. I too am 8 years apart from my bf and I am older. I would like sex several times a week (we do not live together). He seems content with once a week- and I mean once. If I try to give him a blow job- a lot of times he denies me- because for him if I do that he will do something back to me. I am incredibly frusterated that he denies me- and of course, he keeps telling me its "his fantasy for me to be waking him up with a blow job"- when I try to- forget it. We haven't been dating for that long either and I am getting sexuall frusterated.

My bf doesn't seem to see it as a problem- he thinks that "he wants to relax" - and sex isn't relaxing? Personally he seems to get a bit freaked over getting messy- he wants to get up right away and clean up his mess 10 seconds after we finish or he freaks. Sex isn't relaxing? Ugh.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 1:23pm

Read the first post in the thread "My Top Ten Ways to Identify a LL" in the Articles and Resources area.

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