He's 22 and doesnt want sex?

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Registered: 06-18-2009
He's 22 and doesnt want sex?
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Thu, 06-18-2009 - 12:50pm

Ok, this has been driving me crazy for the last six months and its getting to the point where it’s about to break an amazing relationship. I am a 20 year old college student and my boyfriend/fiancé is 22. He and I have been dating for five years (yea pretty much since I was a baby)

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Registered: 12-06-2007
Thu, 06-18-2009 - 2:28pm

I would suggest you read as many posts on this board by high libido people in mismatched libido relationships as you can.


...when we do have sex more often it feels a little more like a task...


From what I know and from what you've described, he sounds like he simply has a relatively low libido. The above phrase seems to

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Thu, 06-18-2009 - 2:36pm
That's pretty strange. Has he gotten tested medically? There might be something medically wrong. Or maybe he's just bored? What else changed around the time his libido dropped?
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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 10:39am

Im 22 and have lost the whole sexual desire. If you love the man that you want to be with for the rest of your life does it really matter how muych you have sex? My bfis 20 and we are getting married next june and hes lucky if we have sex 1 a week. and almost 99% of the time he is the one that iniates it. He doesnt care that we dont have the "rabbit" (new relationship) sex anymore but he does want to feel more compasion.


If you want to marry him but want more sex, then leave him.... but in my opinion thats for

 

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 10:48am
...I wish you and your husband luck...
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 11:06am

Sex is one of the 2 most common reasons for people to divorce.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 3:08pm

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Even though I'm LL myself and have a low need for partnered sex, I disagree with your implication that sex should not be a major consideration to prospective spouses. Bottom line, everyone has different needs. If sex is a core need for someone, better to recognize it and seek a compatible partner than to discount the importance of the need (and be miserable down the line). The importance of sex, having kids, financial values, lifestyle preferences, etc., vary dramatically from person to person. That's why not all people are compatible.

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Fri, 06-19-2009 - 6:10pm

If you want to marry him but want more sex, then leave him.... but in my opinion thats for

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Fri, 06-19-2009 - 8:18pm

ITA. Very well put.

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