He's just not that into me...

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Registered: 12-11-2008
He's just not that into me...
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 5:20pm
I'm 19 and I've been with my long term bf for almost 2years now and he's about 12years older than I am. We moved in together about four months ago and our sex life has gone downhill rapidly.
Before we were together, I hadn't had any sexual eperiences and he's been with quite a few women and now I'm wondering if he's getting bored of me or if he's just got a LL. We went from having sex a few times a day to maybe once a week and I've tried to engage him on the subject but he'll brush me off and tell me he's tired, althuogh he can sit up till 3am sometimes and watch tv.
Am I over reacting? Is it just a slump in his libido or has he lost interest in me? How can I tell?




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Registered: 09-16-2004
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 8:25pm
Was the change four months after you moved in together or four months after your relationship started?
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 9:57pm

<< Am I over reacting? >>



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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 2:11am

Are you sure he is watching TV until 3 a.m.?

My ex was very much into sex until we moved in together, and he was a lot more sexually experienced. Then it quickly went downhill, and he refused to discuss it. Meanwhile, I discovered that he was watching porn at every available opportunity when I wasn't at home, and masturbating (now, even if I hadn't discovered the porn on his computer, the never ending pile of used tissues gave it away).

So, the question is, is he really LL, or does the sudden change in commitment in your relationship scare him? Masturbating is quick and easy, and doesn't require any emotional connection. If he is staying up until 3 a.m., I wonder if it's not just the TV he is watching.



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Registered: 10-10-2008
Sat, 12-20-2008 - 8:08pm
Unfortunately it is not that easy.
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