Hl with LL have you ever wandered off?

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Registered: 09-07-2008
Hl with LL have you ever wandered off?
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 6:26pm
I am in a relationship with several sexual issues. One huge one is I want it more than he does and more often. I just have a few questions for those of you going through this same thing. I am not married to him and will not marry him because of this issue. I do not think it will change. Has it changed for any of you? My other question is have any of you cheated? Not for emotional reasons obviously but to get your needs met? I know that may not be a good way to deal with the problem but I also know I sure have been tempted in the past year to do so. Just not sure how the rest of you handle it! Thanks
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 8:32pm

No I've never cheated or been tempted to cheat.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 12:02am

Hi there,

No, I never wandered off. My self esteem was so crap I wasn't in an emotional position to even feel attractive by the end of our relationship, let alone go looking for anything else. It was a good day if I wasn't in a deep hole of depression.



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Registered: 09-30-2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 5:26am
Never once. It never even entered my mind because I NEVER wanted it to have her do it to me. I'm a man of my word. I gave her my word when I married her. I guess for some people that doesn't mean much. I'm not religious so don't read any of that crap into my words. My vows to her meant so much to me as a man I could never break them even if she said she would never touch me again. If she said SHE was leaving ME that's a different story but I would never cheat. I've never even looked at porn! Stuff is so unbelievably boring! I don't know how anyone watches that without going brain dead!!!!
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 9:36am

Yes I have been tempted, but no I have never done it.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 9:34am


I've been tempted; it would


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Registered: 05-11-2007
Thu, 09-18-2008 - 11:27am
I held out until the last year of our marriage without even being tempted to cheat.