HL's and porn

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HL's and porn
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Thu, 08-28-2008 - 4:25pm

I apologize if this has already been discussed, but I didn't want to hijack another person's thread.

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Registered: 02-06-2007
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 6:18pm

I'm another HL and I think that you are being a responsible spouse by taking things into your own hands, rather than being a victim or letting yourself get too frustrated.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 9:48am

I am sure different LLs have different feelings.


Some probably feel that porn is inherently evil.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 10:07am
It is my opinion that if a partner is unwilling to even compromise to meet their partner's sexual needs, they lose the privilege of demanding what their partner does with themselves to relieve their need (does with themselves, not with other people - masturbation, porn, fantasy).
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 10:59am

I don't think anyone ever loses the right to express how they feel.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 11-29-2007
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 4:43pm

Of course she's entitled to express her displeasure over porn, she's also entitled to "just live with it" as she probably expects you to regarding your marital sex life.


My wife is a very smart woman, she knows good and well that I enjoy porn, that doesn't stop her from getting angry/upset when she stumbles upon some evidence of it.

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Sat, 08-30-2008 - 6:34am

Your wife has NO Right to say anything to you. She is no taking care of your needs so you have to take care of them yourself best you can, the only way you can NOT INVOLVING ANOTHER PERSON. It's your body she has no right to tell you what to do or what not to do. If she doesn't like porn then she can stop that in a second by having sex with her HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I think you have every right to do what you need to do. I don't like porn. I'm probably the only man on the planet that doesn't like it and is HL. I find it boring but that's me. But if I needed to use it I SURE would!!


 
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Registered: 09-30-2007
Sat, 08-30-2008 - 12:21pm

compromise is she can have sex with her husband on a regular basis and he can turn the computer off. I'm not saying every night

 
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Registered: 08-26-2008
Sat, 08-30-2008 - 1:36pm

>>Who knows, but she still has no right to tell him how to live.<<


she does have the right to be grossed out by the porn and then possibly

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Sat, 08-30-2008 - 4:22pm
You are right, she is entitled to be grossed out by it.
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Registered: 08-26-2008
Sat, 08-30-2008 - 6:37pm
maybe im wrong but i didnt get the idea that the op's wife forbid him to do anything, or that she completely denied him sex with her,

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