Holding a Grudge

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Holding a Grudge
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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 10:21am

I am, and I don't know how to stop it.


The past 2 months, things are better than at other times in our marriage.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 11:22am

<< Enraged that my youth is gone.

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Registered: 11-29-2007
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:20pm

I think these must all be normal feelings....the fact that you recognize them in yourself has got to be a good sign.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 12:51pm

The sad thing is... if we were on the outside looking in, and we were advising OTHER people to do something about these "symptoms" of depression, declining health, etc., caused by anything OTHER than ML... we'd be telling them to get out of whatever sitaution was making them "sick" in the first place...

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 1:03pm

>>The sad thing is... if we were on the outside looking in, and we were advising OTHER people to do something about these "symptoms" of depression, declining health, etc., caused by anything OTHER than ML... we'd be telling them to get out of whatever sitaution was making them "sick" in the first place... <<


There is a post elsewhere on the board that criticizes us for doing exactly THAT.

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Tue, 09-02-2008 - 1:08pm

I think the choice whether to do marriage counselling or personal counselling (or both) depends on how far gone the relationship is.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 1:17pm

I think we do both.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 1:26pm

<< We DO tell people to 'get out' with frightening regularity.

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Registered: 09-02-2008
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 3:55pm

It does happen both ways...

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 4:01pm

>>Does that mean "shame on me"?<<


No, it doesn't mean 'shame on you' what it means is that there may be a pattern at work in the way you are choosing your men.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 4:08pm

>>>>> It feels like the universe has played the same joke on me twice.

When you see it coming, duck!

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