How can I give my dh what he needs?
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|Wed, 03-09-2005 - 2:26pm|
I'm the mother of a three month old and a two-year old. I'm totally exhausted because my baby is awake two times per night and my daughter is awake all day. I am getting no sleep and just feel like a zombie.
My husband is upset that I have no desire for sex. I was concerned about him being so lonely, so I decided to step it up and bought a book that has different surprise sex adventures to perform (101 great nights of sex by Laura Corn). The problem is that I just have no interest in doing any of the cards. When I finally get a moment to myself away from the kids, I just don't want anyone touching me.
Seth understands, but doesn't like it. I want to make him happy, I really do, but I'm just so tired. What can I do???
My sister said just to suck it up and sleep with him at least twice a week, but preferably three. She said that it is something that he really needs, and he does so much for me, I just have to find a way to do it. I do enjoy sex a lot, it is just getting into it that I have a hard time with. I asked him what would be "enough" for him and he said he would love three times per week...
Any suggestions on how to increase my libido after my second child, or how to get more interested in sex?
Also, last night he asked me "what gets you really hot"? I told him, to be honest, there is nothing. That's true too. I find my husband very sexy and gorgeous and love his body, and he pleases me every time, but I just have no desire. Is there something physically wrong with me that I need medical help for?
I know he would never cheat on me or leave me over this, he is very committed, but I just love him so much, I want to make him happy.
Sorry for the long post.