How much is "enough" for him already?!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2002
How much is "enough" for him already?!
Sat, 06-28-2008 - 4:33pm

Hi all

Usually I am a lurker, but have posted a few times.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2007
Sat, 06-28-2008 - 4:40pm

My answer is I dont know.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Sat, 06-28-2008 - 6:41pm

When my first BF and I went long distance, as soon as I saw him, he seemed to think it would be sex on tap, and my only focus would be sex, lots and lots of sex. He was sorely disappointed that I still wanted to live a life!

I wonder if he would settle down a bit if he wasn't away for work all the time? I think there is an expectation that your focus will be solely on him when he comes home, since you haven't seen each other for a while. And he is probably sick of taking care of his own needs by the time he gets back too. Your presence would be far more stimulating to him.

There is a middle ground for HLs, but as an individual, he has to want to work on a middle ground with you. Most HL on here would be ecstatic if they got sex once every other day, and you're saying you could manage it every night if necessary. I think the man needs to quite pouting if that's the case!



iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2002
Sat, 06-28-2008 - 8:47pm


Thank you both for your insightful posts.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-24-2008
Sun, 06-29-2008 - 10:30am

Sounds like he needs another hobby.

If I had had enthusiastic sex 4 times a week, I would have felt like I was in heaven. You need to tell him that his attitude will cause you to desire sex a lot less. He's going to kill the goose that laid the golden egg, so to speak.

Most HLs, and you are one of them in my book, would surely settle for less and compromise.

Good luck.

Wishing you good luck today, and great pleasure in the future.