<< i could have sex before work, at my lunch break, after work and before i go to bed and wake up just to be the same way the next day....
i am 31 yo
DH is 56
i had gotten pg
to have an early m/c.
thank you for your reply and your questions....
Have you checked out the ivillage boards dealing with affairs?
thank you and no i didnt mean that you were judging me at all.
Wow, this post raised all kinds of red flags for me. Despite your comment about you being able to separate sex and love, this post gives me the impression of the complete opposite. It sounds more like you have an obsessive-compulsive disorder coupled with a high libido, making the object of your obsession sex. Up until now, I was taking you completely at your word, but not anymore. It sounds to me like you ARE developing emotional relationships with these men.
There are going to be people here who completely disagree with me, but I think anyone who is this obsessive about anything--especially sex--has just as much of a problem as someone who has no libido at all. We constantly urge people here that have zero libido to get medical help, or just "make" themselves have sex. So, I'm going to tell you--you need to go back to your doctor. This seems like a very unhealthy obsession to me. Maybe you need counseling of some kind on top of a purely medical checkup. Please, I am not judging you, but I am worried about what this obsession is doing to your physical and mental health.
Now, to give you some background--I consider myself HL. I am certainly HL in comparison to my BF of 2+ yrs. I have been in past relationships where I willingly and enthusiastically had sex daily. I have never felt the need to seek sex outside of my relationship. My BF and I are in a LDR, and we see each other 2-3 weekends a month, and I still feel no need to seek sex outside of my current relationship. Would I like more? Sure--but with him, not with random strangers. I realize that everyone is an individual and everyone has different levels of need, but to want sex 4 times a day sounds impossibly high to me. Where do you find the time? Doesn't this strike you as being a little....wrong? I also feel that despite having "permission" to seek outside sex, this is an obsession that may ultimately damage your current relationship. Unless you have been completely and openly honest with him about how deep this obsession is, and the number and level of involvement of every one your extracurricular partners, this is only going to end up hurting him. Open marriage takes a great deal of honesty and communication to work. Have you been completely honest with him? Does he know about all your other partners? I have no problems with open marriage---I have been a third before, and one of my best friends is currently a third in a LTR with a MM. But these are/were with partners who had complete and honest information. They all knew who, what and when. That is the only way this can work and keep the primary relationship intact.
hi-- thank you for your comment.
Did you read this post before you sent it? Because to me, it sounds like your life is already out of control.
" i have told him i was done, it didnt work. i stopped texting him, i stopped calling him, i stopped emailing him. but he was persistant and threatened my M and my job (we work at the same place). i even thought about getting a restraining order against him. but then i thought, what if DH knows how crazy this guy is."
Maybe you need some advice over on My Affair support. All I can see is--you aren't the right person for your DH, and he isn't the right person for you. Continuing on like this is just going to hurt you both. I feel bad for both of you. Sorry.
thats hot!!! i could have sex everyday and wish i could...