I need to be the leader...but how?

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I need to be the leader...but how?
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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 5:44pm

I need to be the leader with RG. I am starting to learn about him. He seems awkward and shy and does not seem to be experienced. But I can tell he wants the physical relationship with me but doesnt know how to initiate it. So its up to me to lead. But how? I was thinking maybe set up a video date at his or my house and make sure we have privacy (hard to do with kids) and someplace cuddly. But where to go from there? Talk about it first or just make a move? Does this sound stupid?I mean jeez, I am 46, he is 47. We should know how to proceed but he is different and I feel the need to be causious.


Laurie

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 6:06pm

"But where to go from there? Talk about it first or just make a move? Does this sound stupid?I mean jeez, I am 46, he is 47. We should know how to proceed but he is different and I feel the need to be causious. "


Did you ever see that religious tape or whatever he wanted to tell you about his religion?

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:07pm

I didnt see his videos but we talked about it and he is fine with it and would even consider living together before marriage.


Laurie

anonymous
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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:28pm

"I didnt see his videos but we talked about it and he is fine with it and would even consider living together before marriage."


Then I say just go for it.

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:49pm

Oh I am steps ahead. I got the tests done already because I am soooo ready. :-)


Yes I can tell he is interested and I am ready. So hopefully soon the day will come where we have the right time and place. I am bursting at the seems. So I will definitely go through with it.


Laurie

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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 9:16pm
I agree with the others that it would be best for you to talk to him about this first, and find out how he feels about it.