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|Sun, 08-30-2009 - 4:14pm|
I love my boyfriend, who has Asperger's Syndrome (self-diagnosed, but the shoe certainly fits). He is the most intelligent man I have ever known. But we haven't even so much as attempted sex for over two years. He's not cheating, I always know where he is; he hates pornography, so he hasn't fallen prey to losing interest in me because he's spending all his energy on that; he just doesn't feel comfortable with physicality -- he "hates having a body," as he puts it.
It's not as if I have an unusually high libido, but it is in comparison with his.
I've suggested therapy, but he has no respect for the psychobabblers. He does not have any physical problems suppressing his sex drive. I've tentatively suggested the possibility of an open relationship, but, while he didn't react negatively, he hasn't given me any sign of willingness either.
I do not want to leave him. But I'm not getting any younger, and I really can't face the thought of never having sex again. I also don't want to resort to cheating. I am at an impasse, and if anyone has any suggestions: on learning to cope with the situation, on convincing him to try an open relationship, or on how to resuscitate his sex drive, that would be wonderful.