I need support

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Registered: 08-02-2004
I need support
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Sun, 09-20-2009 - 10:51pm

Hi all.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
In reply to: manunit
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 11:26am

Tell your wife that either (i) she has sex more frequently, (ii) her son moves out or (iii)

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: manunit
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 12:31pm

Besides

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Registered: 10-18-2008
In reply to: manunit
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 12:39pm

I'm sorry to hear that. The good news is, it doesn't sound like an LL issue, just that she's embarassed to be overheard by her son, which makes sense, but at the same time, it's hers and your house! If he doesn't want to hear/see things that are a little awkward, he should leave. You two are doing him a favor by letting him stay. Maybe putting it this way to you wife would help.

Also, when dh and I have guests over but still want to have sex, we usually close the bedroom door and turn a loud action movie on or something lol. Also running the dishwasher/washing machine/dryer may help create enough noise that your wife would be more comfortable. You shouldn't have to give up your sex life completely if you have a guest. Her son MUST know the two of you have sex...

Does he watch tv at night? Maybe you can sneak a session in when he's distracted. Sneaking around can be kinda fun sometimes :)

Best of luck! Talk to your wife and try to see if you can come up with a realistic compromise.

If all else fails, buy her some jewelry. Always works for me. Haha!

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Registered: 08-02-2004
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 3:03pm

The son and his girlfriend move out in 2 weeks.

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Registered: 08-02-2004
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 3:07pm

the reason him being there is interfering with our sex life is that we live in a recreational vehicle.

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Registered: 12-06-2007
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 3:14pm
You're with a low-libido woman who values son-coddling over primary relationships. Only you can decide whether that's the kind of woman you want or not.
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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: manunit
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 6:30pm

The son is an adult, he knows people have sex.

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Registered: 10-18-2008
In reply to: manunit
Fri, 09-25-2009 - 2:48am
How's it going? Any change?

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Registered: 11-29-2007
In reply to: manunit
Thu, 10-01-2009 - 4:20pm

Let's assume for a moment that staying with her father, and her son being in your place are valid reasons not to have sex.

What was her interest in sex BEFORE those events?