Ignorance and Social Pressures ......

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I've said this before, and I know it sounds like a copout, but stretching yourself to have unwanted sex really is different from stretching yourself to help friends or strangers or even stretching yourself to take out the garbage. I'm not saying this gives LLs a free pass, just that the required psychological (and sometimes physical) push is far greater. It's one of the realities that makes ML so complex and confounding.

Here's an analogy. I've been doing some research on eating and weight maintenance for an article I'm writing. I learned that so-called "naturally thin" people -- people who can supposedly eat what they want without gaining weight -- almost invariably don't WANT to eat as much as the rest of us. When forced to eat beyond their natural wants and needs in controlled hospital experiments, they report great physical discomfort and massive resentment at having to eat when not in the mood for it. This is practically incomprehensible to the likes of me, as I belong to the majority of people who love to eat and can easily eat beyond maintenance needs without feeling either physical or psychological discomfort. And yet some people are like this. I think the same forces kick in when LLs are called upon (again and again) to have unwanted sex.

JMHO Freelance

"It's one of the realities that makes ML so complex and confounding."

Or how about, sex is (historically at least) - very risky.