is it really just a waste of time?
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|Tue, 06-09-2009 - 3:47am|
I have been reading the posts here for a while, joined in a few times and posted about my own situation.
I am gay, in my 20s, in love with and living with a wonderful man. Since living together, which has now been for a few years, he has avoided me sexually. Of course he still loves me, finds me attractive, just doesn't want to have sex with me too often (because that makes such perfect sense!?).
From reading on here it sounds like it is mostly a hopeless waste of time. I am starting to think if he was capable of change or cared to that he would have already.
I mean, seriously, if both partners cared so much about each other should it ever even get to the point we are posting on here? If the love is so great shouldn't both partners be doing everything they can to bridge the gap? I sure am but he isn't. What does that make him, loving or selfish and lazy?
Before I get accused of being a demanding HL who doesn't join in on compromise with my LL partner I will add that I would LOVE to settle on a halfway point or even less than that and have done everything I've thought of, read and been suggested to do.
I am totally devastated at the prospect of what to do. I have lived in hope but am I just wasting me time? Are we all wasting our time? I really though he'd care enough to make life better for me. I sure have done a world of things to make life better for him.