Is it too late?

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Registered: 04-15-2006
Is it too late?
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Wed, 08-13-2008 - 10:10pm

Yesterday I had "the talk" version 29.8, I'm pretty sure most of you know what I refer to...


Honestly has finally popped up from my SO's mouth, I've always secretly known he had attractions issues toward me, a bit of a recap:


Been together 3 years, living together 2 1/2, moved in Dec 05 and by valentine's day of 06 I was already complaining about our low sex life, back then I was very thin and much more attractive therefore that was not the issue


Back to present day... I'm 5.2' and 160 pounds, I don look very fat but know I'm not thin, I dont want to excuse myself but not having anyone want me didnt really help me try to keep looking good... yesterday he finally said ML is being caused by his lack of attraction towards me, I explained issue started before I gained wait and he blamed it on the fact that we had just moved in and he was stressed coping with new life style...


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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2006
In reply to: darkvixen
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 10:15pm

tive would be very interesting...


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Registered: 04-15-2006
In reply to: darkvixen
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 10:19pm
Another thing... he has always and I mean ALWAYS refused to seek counseling stating he's normal and nothing is wrong... last night for the first time ever not only did he consent but he was the one to suggest counseling... I pushed for it so long and no
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Registered: 02-03-2008
In reply to: darkvixen
Wed, 08-13-2008 - 11:24pm

I'm so sorry.

 

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Registered: 03-01-2008
In reply to: darkvixen
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 7:27am
It sounds like an excuse to me.

 

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-07-2007
In reply to: darkvixen
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 8:09am

darkvixen:


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Registered: 02-02-2004
In reply to: darkvixen
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 9:36am

His excuse is BS.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 04-15-2006
In reply to: darkvixen
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 5:02pm

Thanks for

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Registered: 09-16-2004
In reply to: darkvixen
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 5:14pm

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That sums it up pretty well. :) Unfortunately, if you can't figure out the facts, it's going to be next to impossible to make any progress. His words and his actions are definitely at odds. I tend to trust actions much more than words so that should tell you what I would believe if I were you.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
In reply to: darkvixen
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 5:23pm

He's LL, a liar and either has ED or fears he would if he let you call the shots.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 04-15-2006
In reply to: darkvixen
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 5:54pm
Well, he very convincingly admitted to low sex driver at the begining of moving in, claims since it was his first time living with someone (mine too) he was very scared and stressed since it was the holidays and we had to move our few things on our own, it was all very fast... which is very consistent and maybe truye,,, only he knows if he's yet again making excuses or being honest... as magnaniman said I'm chosing to believe actions and not words... at least that's what I agreed to do but I'm still a little held back... not so sure of the reason... maybe deep down I know it's over and am stalling or in denial... heck... I don't know...

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