MML bringing our marriage to an end

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Registered: 06-11-2008
MML bringing our marriage to an end
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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 9:26am

From 6 months before our wedding my wife wanted to stop having sex so she could tell our Pastor that we werent having any.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 05-23-2011 - 3:31pm

Get an Annulment now and do not have sex with her.

dragowoman

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Registered: 06-11-2008
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 4:12pm

Yeah, but to make things a bit more clear, Intimacy is also what I mean.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 5:34pm

NO don't itm is too late!!

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 05-25-2011 - 2:18pm
I agree with xxxs. Best course of action is to annual or divorce immediately. Anyone who cuts off sex during or immediately after the honeymoon is not trustworthy.

If you cannot bring yourself to leave now, then limit sexual activity. No unprotected intercourse. Do not trust her if she says she has taken care of it. This is your life and your future at stake. Take responsibility for it yourself.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 06-11-2008
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 2:44pm

So I have since had what I am refering to as "Our last come to Jesus meeting."

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 3:08pm

That tooks some real balls and I highly commend you!

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Fri, 06-03-2011 - 5:26pm

...she has already proven that she won't stick to an effort be more involved with you or explore what might be wrong with the relationship, so unless you simply want to set her up to fail again, give her the list you gave us..tell her you've got a time line in mind and you'll let her know when she reached it...

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Sat, 06-04-2011 - 10:32am

...I'm going to write something here...and, I'll probably get jumped on...but, here goes...XXXS...I don't think there is a woman out there that is not "real"..."most" women will probably experience extreme fluctuations in their libido all of their lives (that leaves a number of women that won't...but, still...I'm using the tag "most")...event guy obviously has married a woman that has a much lower libido than he does...and, if she does experience a higher libido here and there, she probably will not become HL...that doesn't make her not "real"...

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Sat, 06-04-2011 - 10:37am

...wait...I forgot to add the part that I think will get me in trouble...until each and every person reading my words right now have been in a long term, committed relaitonship (years and year) that has included children, mortgages, bills, sickness, death....with a partner willing to accomodate and match your sexual desires...you don't know what your libido is...if you are sexually starved, you don't know that you are HL...just starved...I know a lot of you experiemented and have had relationships before, but unless you've lived long term with your high libido tested and you've maintained a high libido...you don't know what you normal, "resting" libido is...

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