MML bringing our marriage to an end

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MML bringing our marriage to an end
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Thu, 05-12-2011 - 9:26am

From 6 months before our wedding my wife wanted to stop having sex so she could tell our Pastor that we werent having any.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 9:33am
>>It's a part of me that I enjoy and cherish, and I believe I would grieve for it if I lost it. <<

Of course you would grieve for it. The first two years I was on this board, that's what I was doing. But you'd learn to love yourself for who you ARE today, and move on. I mean, really, what's the alternative?
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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 11:41am
>>>>> I mean, really, what is the alternative? <<<<<

To be me. To hate yourself. That should be lesson enough for t_q if her libido drops at some point. Choose to move on and not hold onto regrets.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 12:27pm
>>To hate yourself. That should be lesson enough for t_q if her libido drops at some point. Choose to move on and not hold onto regrets. <<

I wasn't really referring to libido changes that happen because of choices you make, but rather the ones that happen because of things entirely outside your control. No point in hating yourself over those, you didn't get to choose. I went there, I wallowed in that, I moved out the other side.

Not that I think you should hate you for the choices you are making either though, Hold. It sucks to be in the position where you have to make that kind of choice. Hate that position, hate how much it sucks, but don't hate yourself for having your priorities and sticking with them. That's something to be proud of, not hate.
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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 1:08pm

...how long have you spent in a committed relationship with all of the stresses while actively having coupled sex that you found at least minimally satisfactory...

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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 1:11pm

....Hold, did you hate yourself before you were married?...

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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 2:23pm
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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 5:52pm

...oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know that

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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 8:23pm
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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 9:30pm

...but, you have felt at least minimally satisfied in the "coupled giving to each other" sense...that's what I mean by coupled sex....sex in a relationship with two committed people who are going through all of the stresses of life simultaneously giving to each other sexually...

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Mon, 06-06-2011 - 10:39pm
zejayge wrote:

...how long have you spent in a committed relationship with all of the stresses while actively having coupled sex that you found at least minimally satisfactory...

I wonder how many of the six living

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