A moment of empathy & epiphany...

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A moment of empathy & epiphany...
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 11:53pm

I had a moment today where I think I got a glimpse of what it feels like to be LL. Maybe in an abstract way, but sometimes the back door is the only way to get in.


First of all, let me explain that my middle daughter has a condition known as Dysfunctional Sensory Integration. It falls somewhere on the spectrum between autism and ADD. Basically she has a lot of sensory issues and poor impulse control and can be a real handful, on top of which her IQ is maddeningly high and she has endless energy.


So, there are a lot of days when this kid needs more than I have in my tank. I reach the point where I cannot even hear the questions she is

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 7:22am

<< sometimes the back door is the only way to get in. >>


I couldn't help but stop in my tracks and generate a naughty chuckle when I read this phrase ;-)


Aahhhh, a little bit of horny humor... ok, now I'll go back and finish reading the rest of the post... :-)

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 11:22am

Angela,


I'm so sorry you have to go through this type of feeling.

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 12:11pm

I had a similar moment recently though by very different circumstances.

Although I am a natural introvert, I do seek and enjoy social contact...occasionally. It's just that I get my "fill" very quickly. A few hours once or twice a week of intense interaction is usually plenty for me, even with my extended family. The rest of the time, I am content being at home with my wife and dogs. I get mentally worn out very quickly at the mall or any place with a lot of people. I think it's because I am hypersensitive to all the energy of those places.

As I reflected on this aspect of myself recently, I realized that this could help me understand, viscerally, how *some* LLs must feel about sexual and/or physical contact. It's like a hypersensitivity to intimacy. Too much of it is threatening and anxiety provoking. They may still need it, but only in small doses, and certainly not for the reasons that HLs do.




Edited 8/26/2008 12:17 pm ET by magnaniman
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 12:13pm

>>As I reflected on this aspect of myself recently, I realized that this could help me understand, viscerally, how *some* LLs must feel about sexual and/or physical contact. It's like a hypersensitivity to intimacy. Too much of it is threatening and anxiety provoking.<<


Beautifully put.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 3:09pm

Miranda are you saying that you think you have issues with intimacy?


I never got the feeling from reading your posts.


Also you say that you used to be HL with your husband, and now you changed to be LL.

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 3:17pm

I've always had issues with intimacy and sex, I just didn't realize that I did until later.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 10:08pm

Angela, the difference I see in your dealing with your daughter and how some of the LL partners deal with it is that you do dig deep and continue to give your daughter what she needs.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 10:49pm

Dropping out of lurk to say, I think I know where you're coming from.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 7:56am
daughter in puberty..........I wish you a boatload of patience!
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 4:32pm

>>Angela, the difference I see in your dealing with your daughter and how some of the LL partners deal with it is that you do dig deep and continue to give your daughter what she needs.

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