MY BOYFRIEND DOESNT WANT SEX

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Registered: 09-10-2008
MY BOYFRIEND DOESNT WANT SEX
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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 10:42am

Me and my boyfriend have a pretty good relationship. We've been together 2 1/2 years, 2 1/3 of those years it was long distance due to my being in college. Ever since I graduated a month ago he hasnt wanted sex! We've had sex 2 times in a month. He is 21 and I am 22 so im really taken back by it. When we first started dated whenever i would come home on weekends (about once a month) or have summer or winter break we would at least be having sex 4-5 times a week.

We love spending time with each other and basically live together. I hardly have any sexual experience before him, and I know he has a ton so I'm not really a "jump on top of you and %%#@ you kinda person," but i DO want sex, at least sometimes.

i dunno if maybe he is just waiting for me to make the move, or see how long ill wait until i make the move.

we jokingly talk about how we havent been having sex, and ive told him how i want to have sex and he either jokingly says something like "im too lazy for that, it doesnt matter that we have sex now that you are home for good" or "thats what redtube is for (laugh)"

so he thinks its all a joke because he has it stuck in his head that girls dont want sex so when i say that i want it, im kidding or something.

please help try and figure out whats going on!?!!?

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 11:06pm

fiv3:


So sorry to hear about your situation.

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 3:14pm

I have to agree with OpGuy, pay attention to the words coming out of his mouth.

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Sat, 09-20-2008 - 6:50pm

actually

 
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Sat, 09-20-2008 - 7:11pm

I agree with Italy.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Sat, 09-20-2008 - 9:30pm

I remember my ex at 22 and yes he was horny all the time..lol

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 4:50am

I Have to disagree. After money it is the number one reason people get divorced. Why do that to yourself at this early age? One there are plenty of other nice people out there second I would rather have my dogs and a a good book than be fight over sex night after night. The feeling of rejection and the lack of intimacy is just not worth it.


Take it for from someone you has been down the road. No matter how nice he is in the rest of the relationship the feeling of being alone in bed is hard to shake

 
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Registered: 05-22-2007
Sun, 09-21-2008 - 9:34am
I am in agreement with you about that, I can't be in a relationship where there's a problem and the other party refuses to acknowledge the problem, or work on a solution.
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Registered: 06-14-2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 9:31pm

"actually

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 6:55am
Absolutely. Don't listen to his words. It's too easy to talk the talk. More important to watch what he does. If his behavior does NOT match is word then hit the road. It's easy to say you'll change, it's hard to really do it. If you are going to change then you'll just change and you will see the behavior pattern. He won't HAVE to tell you about it.