Need advise

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2012
Need advise
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Wed, 04-11-2012 - 1:25pm

I need some help. I am 49 and last year my libido went crazy. My husband and I have always enjoyed a good sex life, but now I am thinking about it 24 hours a day. My husband has never turned me down, but he works about 70 hours most weeks and I feel bad if I don’t let him rest. What is really bothering me is I am starting to look at younger men. Don’t get me wrong. I love my husband, but I see some of these younger guys, my son’s soccer coach for example and it is just about all I can do not to proposition him. How do I get this under control? Thanks in advance.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2006
In reply to: she063
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 1:37pm

Sometimes a change in libido is not body driven but mind inspired. For instance, when someone gets a new partner.

I would look into what this stage of life means to you and perhaps what you may have missed out on up to this point.

For instance, at 49, I can see that my opportunity to court younger women is soon ending. I just broke up with my 22 y.o. (special circumstances) gf but do not expect to ever have another under 30.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2004
In reply to: she063
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 2:00pm

Maybe you can spice up your sex life with your DH?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2006
In reply to: she063
Wed, 04-11-2012 - 6:16pm
She063 wrote:

I need some help. I am 49 and last year my libido went crazy. My husband and I have always enjoyed a good sex life, but now I am thinking about it 24 hours a day. My husband has never turned me down, but he works about 70 hours most weeks and I feel bad if I don’t let him rest. What is really bothering me is I am starting to look at younger men.

Well you said 'you' feel bad if 'you' don't let him rest.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-22-2003
In reply to: she063
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 4:40pm

Hi She063:

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-11-2012
In reply to: she063
Thu, 04-12-2012 - 5:55pm
Hi She,

Is your husband desire sex as much as you, but just doesn't have the time to do it as often as you would like? You say he works 70 hours a week, that can be demanding of ones time. Maybe that's why you feel tempted to cheat, he may not be around much while your libido wheels are spinning into overdrive.

I wish mine would :-)