I'm going crazy here.
Your situation sounds eerily close to mine. (You aren't my w, are you?) I am the husband who seems to have lost his libido. However, I'm quite HL. What's really happening is: 20+ years of sexual rejection and refusal to negotiate/compromise/work
I have the urge to do it constantly, but I just remind myself that life is too short to have sex with someone who never wanted me and whom I no longer want. (That's my personal feeling about sex...everyone is different on the issue of how necessary mutual desire is to make sex adequate.)
Oh, and I masturbate. A lot.
When you see it coming, duck!
The blinders sort of gradually fell off my eyes almost four years ago. There was a particularly brutal rejection in which she made it quite clear that she simply didn't care if I was sexually satisfied, that she felt no sense of responsibility for my sexual satisfaction
A few things popped right into my mind when I read your post.
1st, he has like this and even trying to get pregnant you only did the dead to accomplish the task...why on earth would you bring another child into your marriage when you knew there were issues?
2nd, he works from home, and your at home.