Personality Characteristics

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Personality Characteristics
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Thu, 09-03-2009 - 8:53am

My DW is a shy and anxious girl.

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 8:58am

I'd say it's possible. I'm also anxious and somewhat inhibited. At the same time I'm very resourceful and adventurous, and routinely push myself past my fears and limits. But there's little motivation to push myself past sexual limits because the payoff isn't there.

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 11:38am
Anecdotally, a number of HLs I've read about tend to try and soothe their shyness and anxieties with sex. I don't think shyness and anxiety necessarily correlate with low sex drive.
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 11:56am

I dont think you can really make that correlation any further than maybe just being your wife's personality.

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 12:09pm
...I don't know...my husband, my first husband and me?...we are/were HL and are outgoing, generally happy go lucky...have a tendency (had a tendency) to be adventurous...value physical fitness...we do (don't) seem to be high strung or "reactors"...
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Registered: 08-26-2008
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 1:56pm

I'm confused. Haven't you been posting here

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 3:00pm
...no, not a typo...in relation to my husband, I am the LL in our relationship...I think that LL is relative to the relationship...I'm probably stroking my own ego...but, as a person who enjoys sex 3-4 solid times a week and has been enjoying it a few more additional times a week for the last few months...I think that my libido is probably a tad higher than the norm...I'm probably wrong about that...like I said...I'm stroking my own ego...but...in relation to my husband who would be thrilled to have sex in the afternoon and morning...and, probably at bed time too...I'm definitely the LL in this house...in my early to mid-20s (during my first marriage) I was also the LL in that relationship...but, I was straight up, classic LL...I didn't want to spend what free time I had (even once a week) having sex...
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Registered: 08-26-2008
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 3:16pm

Makes sense then

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 4:35pm
...I think that compromise is "easy" for anyone interested in having a healthy relationship...regardless of what the compromise is...but, I am not sure that it is any easier for my HL husband to compromise down about 7-8 times a week than for the HL husband (HL in relation to his relationship) who would like to have sex 2 times a week and gets it 2xs a month...
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 5:03pm
compromise is a fact of life, period.
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Registered: 08-26-2008
Thu, 09-03-2009 - 5:06pm

I'm not sure about your husband, but you do give the impression that as an "LL", it's simple and easy for you to engage in sex every day rather than your preferred 3-4 times a week.


If you are indeed an HL who is energized rather than drained by sex,(even if not exactly in the

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