Question for the HL guys with LL wives

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Registered: 07-24-2007
Question for the HL guys with LL wives
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 9:15am
Ok, so I have been thinking, considering my wife has a lower sex drive than myself, and she is my only sexual partner, I wonder if her being my only experience is
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 10:28am

I don't think it is better or worse, just different.

The good part of having experienced wild sex in earlier times is that you don't have the regret "I never got to experience it".

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 04-10-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 10:57am

I agree, it's not necessarily better or worse, as it depends on your own frame of mind.

I've known people who were like you, waited until marriage for sex, and when their sexual relationship with their spouse cooled or didn't go as they wanted, the desire for some "strange" with someone else strengthened. They felt like they had and were missing out on something because their spouse wasn't willing to go there with/for them.

However, I've also know similar folks who were content to fantasize about others but never acted out.

I've also known folks that were very promiscuous in youth that later regretted some of the experiences they had with other women/men, regardless of what they were/were not getting from their spouse.

Personally, I am happy that I have other experiences with women to look back on fondly. I don't miss those experiences, nor am I tempted to stray because of them. My wife and I have been together long enough to have tried a lot of different things (mainly when we were dating), so what often clouds the picture is when my wife won't continue to do things that we once did. I'd rather not have known what it could be with her when she was wilder, than to have had it once but never again.

Pick your poison.

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Registered: 11-29-2007
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 12:45pm

All of my previous relationships were much more sexual than my marriage.

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Registered: 01-04-2006
Tue, 07-01-2008 - 6:02pm

" If I had been with a woman that loved to give oral, swallowed, was very vocal sexually and could communicate about what she wanted, how she wanted it and when she wanted it, would it be harder for me to deal with my spouse?"

No it wouldn't have made a difference for me.

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Registered: 04-24-2008
Wed, 07-02-2008 - 12:47am


I think you're screwed, (or not), either way.

I didn't expect my wife to be very adventurous in bed. I would have loved it if she were, but from knowledge of

Wishing you good luck today, and great pleasure in the future.