Questions for HL Women

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Questions for HL Women
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Sat, 01-07-2012 - 1:51pm
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Sat, 01-07-2012 - 5:23pm

>>Obviously, as is my H, yours is extremely LL, possibly NL (no libido).

Jen
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Sun, 01-08-2012 - 5:54am

MSL, have you read some of Xi's accounts over the last few months on the board?

He has been able to achieve some place of Zen mastery in a situation where he is not getting anywhere near the sex life he'd prefer, yet has the detachment and focus that makes it work for him.

I fear that why your H behaves as he does will never be known, even to himself, and pursuing this, while understandable, may not be productive.

In the process of resetting my marriage, out of my choice, I went through a stage of 18 months of complete celibacy.

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Sun, 01-08-2012 - 1:23pm
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Sun, 01-08-2012 - 4:44pm

I don't think I was advocating celibacy, that would be a very personal choice at the right time.

What I was trying to say is that I feel that trying to forget or bury

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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 12:10pm

Hey, msl, nice to see you (or at least the blank space where you post used to be).

Hope you are well. Even if the ML persists. How is your daughter?

When you see it coming, duck!

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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 11:53am

So what's with the sudden abundance on this board of HL women involved with LL men? Is this an epidemic?

I have some questions for you women:

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Fri, 01-20-2012 - 8:55pm


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Mon, 01-23-2012 - 9:15am
TG, I wondered the same thing as you. If he's adventurous and cooperative and enjoys a full range of sexual activities, I'm having a hard time seeing how bad a mismatch could really be here. Either the poster has left something out, or it's a mismatch in frequency only, and even that seems fairly small. Seems like some short term counseling or cooperative problem solving should be able to manage the situation if that is the case.
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Mon, 01-23-2012 - 2:04pm
If he masturbates and looks at porn, despite her wanting to have sex more often, she should find out what she can do to reduce the obstacles to prtner sex. There is something he finds unpleasant / anxiety-inducing, or he wouldn't choose solo over partner. She needs to create a safe, supporting environment for him to admit his inner truth. Then she needs to thank him for sharing and not use his revelations as ammunition against him. If she makes confession a win for him, she might find the ingredients for resolving the ML.

When you see it coming, duck!