>> Do you find you're more in love as time goes on? The honeymoon stage never ended?
...I enjoy sex with my husband (just not as much as he wants/needs to)...I enjoy it now as much (if not more...as we've practiced quite a bit...we're pretty good at it) as I did in the beginning...if I were not in a relationship with HIM (he seems to be the key to my libido at this point in my life) I don't know if I would want or need as much sexual interaction...
...someone said something about food...I limit my calories everyday (except one weekend day, for one meal including dessert, a month)...I take in about 15-1600 everyday, I spread those calories over 3 meals and 2 snacks...so, as you can imagine, the food I eat isn't rich...I eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, lean protein or plant based protein...I don't look forward to eating, per se...food isn't enjoyment, it's fuel (to me)...I love to cook and I enjoy the process, but I prepare very healthy meals for my children (my dinner consists of what I prepare for them, just measured
"O, Reason not the need!"
I tend to avoid rationalisations: for one thing, my sexuality is something that is woven through my being and experience, so reasoning why I want to express it is like asking why I want to breathe.
if sex didn't feel good physically if the emotional and spiritual would make up that difference?
Interesting question, and for me the answer would be no, because it's very much an integral thing - an all-of-me experience where I do not distinguish mind & body.
Just on a Pavlov basis, I wouldn't expect the emotional and spiritual would suffice, witness the struggles of ascetics!
The last thing on EARTH I want is a witness. If the person I'm with is watching me or focusing on me too intently it completely squicks me out
Very interesting, thank you for this perspective.
my sexuality is something that is woven through my being and experience,
so reasoning why I want to express it is like asking why I want to
Good point, though I could probably spend a day meditating on why we breathe
The smells, tastes and textures of sex are actually a little repellent
to me. I have to bear them to get to the "good stuff."
Thought some more on this
The textures are the best part
Mashing the no-no parts into someone's face, all messy & rumple, & grunty