Reason for Sex ??

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Reason for Sex ??
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 1:47pm

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 3:13pm
>>I remember reading it described as like a sneeze. Which really under-sells it.

It's more like ... being struck by lightning for an hour<<

I'm one who describes it as a sneeze. Wow, it must be amazing if you are decribing an entire hour of being struck by lightning.

But your description of it being physical and wanting a witness/participant really spoke to me as well. The last thing on EARTH I want is a witness. If the person I'm with is watching me or focusing on me too intently it completely squicks me out. If I am going to do it, I want my partner to be totally distracted and into what THEY are feeling, so I don't have to be "examined" like a bug under a microscope.

Your post is interesting, I will look forward to reading what the other write.
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 3:22pm

For me, there are many things in life that are far, far better shared.

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 4:09pm

To be able to share that pleasure, to lose oneself in each other, to escape from the drudgery of everyday life, to be able to be that vulnerable and intimate.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 4:21pm

Because it’s not just physical...

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 4:33pm


Your post is interesting, I will look forward to reading what the other write.

Thanks!

I thought if I could get it into words, if the idea would form into a complete thought, I could express it to BF easier.

Plus I just like other people's stories. I can be a little too introspective some days, why do I like this, why do I think that, why why why.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 4:43pm

I would imagine that for a person with no hunger drive and who only ate because he knew that it was required, eating probably wouldn’t have much potential to be a pleasurable experience.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 4:53pm
>>Always? Was it different before<<

Not as different as what people here who are HL describe, but yes, before it was somewhat different. I felt it more intensely. Also the excitement was there, the pulse pounding, head dizzying array of feelings that come with the chase, the conquest, the intangible feeling of not knowing the other person and what they will do and how they will react...I don't feel any of that stuff anymore, and the orgasm itself is a lot like a sneeze, except that the buzzy feeling that tells me I need to sneeze and the involuntary muscle spasms that accompany it last a little longer with the orgasm (a sneeze happens faster than the speed of sound or something like that, an orgasm might last a minute or so)
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 4:56pm
>>Is pleasure seeking related to sex goals? Does LL seek other physical pleasures less? Not related? <<

Not related. I love good food (and as I recall FLM has a thing for good/exotic food and music as well.) Good smells are also something I really enjoy. However, that being said, sex doesn't smell or taste good to me. The smells, tastes and textures of sex are actually a little repellent to me. I have to bear them to get to the "good stuff." Which is much much easier when the excitement that I described in my previous post is present.
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 5:07pm

>> Does a pleasure for exotic food, for the feel of soft or silky clothing, the smell of rain, the smell just before it snows, a breeze on a hot day ... bring pleasure that sex doesn't?

It's a different pleasure... like apples and oranges.

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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 5:28pm

Sexual interaction is intertwined with companionship for me.

Do you find you're more in love as time goes on? The honeymoon stage never ended?

The more love you have, the more you want, the more you give

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha

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