Sexless Marriage

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-05-2008
Sexless Marriage
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 10:40pm
I need advice because right now I confused. I am a 29 year old female, my husband is 33, we have been married for 2 1/2 years. Before we were married our sex life was great 3 times a night, and most of all satisfying. Now I am lucky if we have sex once a week, and most of the time I'm not enjoying it, I only wishing it would be over! My husband is even having a hard time keeping an erection, which is hurtful to me because this never was a problem before. He falls asleep while performing oral sex on me and seems to no longer have a clue as to what it satisfying to me. I offered to read erotica to him and even asked about toys but he feels as though they are not needed, I disagree. I feel as though this small want of mine has become a large need for me, and is becoming frustrating everyday. I love my husband, but I'm so lost right now because I feel as though there is no intimacy in our marriage. Please help is there something I can do...Or should I make the trip down to the local sex toy store and begin satisfying myself?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-22-2007
Mon, 08-18-2008 - 10:52pm
hello, i am sorry to hear about your situation. i would suggest talking to him to find out if there's anything that's bothering him that could be interfering with the frequency, and his losing erections. Sorry to say it, but there's always the possibility that he could be gay. If the problems persist, counseling may be needed.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 08-19-2008 - 6:37am

Sorry to hear about your situation.

Clearly something has changed drastically with your husband.

Has anything changed drastically with you?