Sexual frustration

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Registered: 08-22-2006
Sexual frustration
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Mon, 08-25-2008 - 2:53pm

Hi Everyone,


I'm new to this board and need some help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2006
Mon, 08-25-2008 - 6:19pm

"What should I do?

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 5:43pm

Here are Holdingontoit's 2 rules for mismatched libidos:


1.

When you see it coming, duck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-22-2007
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 8:00pm
I agree with both tryinghard and holding, you have to first sit yourself down and decide if sex is an important enough issue to remain in the relationship.
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Registered: 01-24-2007
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 9:56pm
I'm also in agreement, especially when you add in that if he cant have intercourse he doesnt think about pleasing you.
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Registered: 03-02-2000
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 10:34pm

My take: His penis doesn't work because he isn't interested in sex.

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Registered: 07-29-2008
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 10:56am

Hi Jersey 1971,


I read your message, and just wanted to tell you that i m in the same situation.


I am 35, married to a 44 years old. Like u i've only been married for 8 months. I know exactly how u feel, Lesson i've learnt is marry someone ur own age, as it seems to be the problem.


Had problem right from the first time, and having till today. My one doesnt even see a doctor, instead does everything else to annoy me, he would find any excuse, either it use to be lots of arguments, and then weeks of sulking behaviour, and now when we do our best not to argue, he still has no shame, he just sits in front of tele till 12, and i've to go to bed on my own, and his excuse, for god sake we've been married 8 months, i tell him, 8 months, not 8 years.


I dont think anything can improve this kind of situation, i am personally coming to a conclusion that i cant live in a marriage like that, because what is it u marry for, love, affection, companionship, i m not getting any, i m an independent person, so dont need a husband to provide for. even though this is my 2nd marriage i think either he has to show some effort or i m out of it. as its knocking down my confidence, i m letting myself go, as he doesnt make me feel attractive. I do love him, but am very unhappy, and cant live in an unhappy marriage.