What do LLs Want their HL's to DO or SAY

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What do LLs Want their HL's to DO or SAY
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Mon, 05-25-2009 - 2:42pm

I have a LL 22 year old b/f and I hate it.

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Mon, 05-25-2009 - 2:50pm
The best thing my LL wife said this year was, "I don't mind if you masturbate." Wait, now that didn't really improve our sex life, did it? But I'm feeling a bit less frustrated.


Edited 5/25/2009 2:51 pm ET by my_sex_toy45
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Mon, 05-25-2009 - 3:00pm
Lolz. no it didn't help the sex life really!
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Mon, 05-25-2009 - 3:05pm
Well, the nice thing is, if you can't turn Billy Bob on, you just
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Mon, 05-25-2009 - 4:10pm
Yeah, I sure can... But I want him to take the shame.
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Mon, 05-25-2009 - 7:41pm
...no, he's not responsible for your orgasms or the tools that you want to facilitate the orgasms...your orgasms are all about you...so, let me ask you why you are staying in the relationship if the lack of sex frustrates you so much?...Hold says it best...if you choose to stay one more second with him, take responsibility for your decision to knowingly stay with a man that does not want to have sex as often as you do...and, learn to deal with it...or, leave the relationship and make the sexual connection one of your important determining factors in forming your long term future relationships...
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Mon, 05-25-2009 - 11:57pm

Yeah, I sure can... But I want him to take the shame.

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Tue, 05-26-2009 - 12:06am

Zejayge said:...no, he's not responsible for your orgasms or the tools that you want to facilitate the orgasms...


I heartily recommend this mindset. For 22+ years, my wife and I were of the mindset that she and she alone was responsible for my sexual satisfaction. Then I realized that, if that was her job, she really wasn't enjoying it and wasn't really trying to excel at it. Consequently, I wasn't enjoying it either. I also realized that it was a heavy burden that was

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Tue, 05-26-2009 - 7:30am

I've tried to tell him that this hurts more than him cheating on me, at least would know that he liked

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Tue, 05-26-2009 - 12:48pm

On another note, I would be interested to know what HLs want their LLs to do or say. And I'm talking about more than merely submitting themselves to our will

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Tue, 05-26-2009 - 1:23pm

>>2. "I don't really care about sex, so I don't care who you have sex with, either. In fact, because you get so testy when you're not getting it, here's the phone number of my cute friend, ___. She needs frequent, wild sex. Have fun. I love you."<<

I've basically said this to DH. Of course, I have added comments about taking care to have only safe sex, and not to let the universe know what he's up to.

He declined. "that's not what I want" he tells me. He won't be happy unless I miraculously turn back into the person I was 15 years ago, and that I cannot do. Compromise, it seems, is to be all on me.


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