I have a LL 22 year old b/f and I hate it.
Yeah, I sure can... But I want him to take the shame.
Zejayge said:...no, he's not responsible for your orgasms or the tools that you want to facilitate the orgasms...
I heartily recommend this mindset. For 22+ years, my wife and I were of the mindset that she and she alone was responsible for my sexual satisfaction. Then I realized that, if that was her job, she really wasn't enjoying it and wasn't really trying to excel at it. Consequently, I wasn't enjoying it either. I also realized that it was a heavy burden that was
I've tried to tell him that this hurts more than him cheating on me, at least would know that he liked
On another note, I would be interested to know what HLs want their LLs to do or say. And I'm talking about more than merely submitting themselves to our will
>>2. "I don't really care about sex, so I don't care who you have sex with, either. In fact, because you get so testy when you're not getting it, here's the phone number of my cute friend, ___. She needs frequent, wild sex. Have fun. I love you."<<
I've basically said this to DH. Of course, I have added comments about taking care to have only safe sex, and not to let the universe know what he's up to.
He declined. "that's not what I want" he tells me. He won't be happy unless I miraculously turn back into the person I was 15 years ago, and that I cannot do. Compromise, it seems, is to be all on me.