what to do when you get sick of taking care of yourself.

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what to do when you get sick of taking care of yourself.
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Fri, 09-16-2011 - 4:02pm
today, its been the longest i've gone without sex in a relationship, 2 and nearly a half months. I wonder if my husband has a clue that its been that long. I got a 12 pack of batteries about 2 months ago and they're all dead. In fact my husband just asked for some for his mouse and i had to get the only two left... So no more vibrator. Im pretty bored with it anyway. What do you all do when you get fed up, bored... Sick of the idea of pleasing yourself yet again?

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im still weighing up my options, right now im trying to accept him the way he is and leave him alone to pursue his hobbies in peace. Im just looking for ways to cope, to feel better, to deal with the reality that my husband doesn't want to have sex with me. Im not really interested in divorce for quite a few reasons. I dont want to cheat because it takes a lot of effort and freetime among the other moral reasons. We've discussed this issue and he hasn't done anything to improve the situation. Im just wondering what other people do? I think id literally go nuts if this went on for two years.
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What do you all do when you get fed up, bored... Sick of the idea of pleasing yourself yet again?

I agree the pleasing yourself does only so much.

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mains powered or human powered? Hehehe... I usually feel depressed about having to masturbate and like i must be hideous because he's a man and thier supposed to want sex... Harmless Flirting with men and getting a response helps, trouble is i dont get too much opportunities to do that. Because im pretty much always with my husband. He's not the jelous type so doing it around him wont have any affect on him, but if other men want me, at least i'll feel wanted by someone, not the right one, but thats cause he's got a problem, not because im wrong in some way. Ever tried harmless flirting to boost your mood? I wonder how the men im flirting with would react if they knew that was going on?
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also, theres only so much porn a person can watch, half of it is disgusting to start with and the other half starts to become boring or even a parody of itself, i laugh more than i um... Er... Enjoy it.
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This is something that has bothered me in the past with my wife.

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hahaha... Tranquility_goddess, good on you for not going insane and trying for two years! I think phone sex might be beyond the boundry into cheating for me though. I want to remain blameless so i can keep the higher ground vantage point in our battles... Jesus, his obsession with wargames has rubbed off on me! 71bri, your wife seems very contradictary. I think in a relationship the rules should be the same for both parties. Also, as in our situations the LL should have enough respect to keep it to themselves when they find someone attractive. For me this doesnt work because even if my husband doesnt say anything, he's a man so you can tell when he's checking someone out. If we had a normal sex life i wouldnt care about him wanting other women, but when he doesnt want me at all and looks around at other women, it can be really crushing. That being said, your wife was talking to her sister which means she really might have thought the guy was a catch for her and actually cared if her sister made an effort to snatch him up. Or she could just be insecure and contradictary.
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oh and porn, i know what you mean by double edge sword. Im only just barely able to watch now without thinking about how the man in the picture is obviously very much wanting the woman and having a great time. Why doesnt my husband want me that way... Whereas i used to just think.... Weeee isnt everyone hot and isnt this sexy fun times!
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