what to do when you get sick of taking care of yourself.

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Registered: 09-09-2011
what to do when you get sick of taking care of yourself.
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Fri, 09-16-2011 - 4:02pm
today, its been the longest i've gone without sex in a relationship, 2 and nearly a half months. I wonder if my husband has a clue that its been that long. I got a 12 pack of batteries about 2 months ago and they're all dead. In fact my husband just asked for some for his mouse and i had to get the only two left... So no more vibrator. Im pretty bored with it anyway. What do you all do when you get fed up, bored... Sick of the idea of pleasing yourself yet again?

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Registered: 01-25-2010

Because you do nothing she can feel that her behavior is ok.

dragowoman

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Registered: 02-02-2004
That is the problem. For many HLs, the two aspects are not separable. It is sex with a loved one which brings the feeling of emotional closeness. Yes, we want sex. But sex with someone besides the romantic partner is not the same. And romantic connection without sex is not enough. ML would be much easier to handle if it were.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 05-04-2006
>>But sex with someone besides the romantic partner is not the same. <<

This matches with what my DH maintains as well. Sex with other people is good and all, but it's not fully satisfying his need for sex with ME.
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Registered: 12-10-2009

Sigh indeed - life would be simpler if we were able to decouple.

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Registered: 01-25-2010

It is a game of power.

dragowoman

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