what to do when you get sick of taking care of yourself.

im still weighing up my options, right now im trying to accept him the way he is and leave him alone to pursue his hobbies in peace. Im just looking for ways to cope, to feel better, to deal with the reality that my husband doesn't want to have sex with me. Im not really interested in divorce for quite a few reasons. I dont want to cheat because it takes a lot of effort and freetime among the other moral reasons. We've discussed this issue and he hasn't done anything to improve the situation. Im just wondering what other people do? I think id literally go nuts if this went on for two years.

mains powered or human powered? Hehehe... I usually feel depressed about having to masturbate and like i must be hideous because he's a man and thier supposed to want sex... Harmless Flirting with men and getting a response helps, trouble is i dont get too much opportunities to do that. Because im pretty much always with my husband. He's not the jelous type so doing it around him wont have any affect on him, but if other men want me, at least i'll feel wanted by someone, not the right one, but thats cause he's got a problem, not because im wrong in some way. Ever tried harmless flirting to boost your mood? I wonder how the men im flirting with would react if they knew that was going on?

hahaha... Tranquility_goddess, good on you for not going insane and trying for two years! I think phone sex might be beyond the boundry into cheating for me though. I want to remain blameless so i can keep the higher ground vantage point in our battles... Jesus, his obsession with wargames has rubbed off on me! 71bri, your wife seems very contradictary. I think in a relationship the rules should be the same for both parties. Also, as in our situations the LL should have enough respect to keep it to themselves when they find someone attractive. For me this doesnt work because even if my husband doesnt say anything, he's a man so you can tell when he's checking someone out. If we had a normal sex life i wouldnt care about him wanting other women, but when he doesnt want me at all and looks around at other women, it can be really crushing. That being said, your wife was talking to her sister which means she really might have thought the guy was a catch for her and actually cared if her sister made an effort to snatch him up. Or she could just be insecure and contradictary.