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| Sat, 07-25-2009 - 6:54pm |
So you all know my story, I suppose. Monday is our 24th anniversary. Typically, we go away for a long weekend together to celebrate. This year, I didn't want to ruin the trip for myself (and sometimes her) by going with the expectation of
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tell her you did the best you could and leave it at that.
If at all possible, try and go with no expectations at all...that way, if anything does happen you can be pleasantly surprised.
Great input and great question:
why did you pick a place with so many relatives?
She didn't tell me her parents would be visiting Las Vegas while we were there until after she told me about the dinner invitation. *eyeroll*
In fact, since she took upon herself to arrange the lodging, I wouldn't be surprised if her parents are staying in the same condo we are. *more eyerolling*
I think I may be staying
I agree with amom and magna. Time to man up. Time to get the book No More Mr. Nice Guy and do the breaking free exercises. Time to grab hold of your eggs and tell her to back off. So far in your marriage she has learned she can push you around. And she thinks she enjoys doing that. But I bet deep down she is disappointed. You need to show her that what she would really enjoy is a man she can respect. A man who does not let her push him around.
I know I am at my unhappiest when I let Mrs. Hold push me around. You may fear that fighting would be worse than avoiding conflict. In all likelihood it won't be worse. For either of you. Even if she stops getting her way.
When you see it coming, duck!
When you see it coming, duck!
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I sense a smidgen of bitterness/resentment/resignation in that statement. My suggestion to you would be to go on the trip with lightness of heart -- that is, no expectation AND no resentment. Don't make your wife feel bad for being who she is, and remember that a background expectation of "nonstop sex" would be a burden for all but the highest-libido women.
F.
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