Who initates the sex in your house?

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Registered: 04-14-2008
Who initates the sex in your house?
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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 11:04am

Who initates the sex in your house?



  • Woman (Always)
  • Woman (Mostly)
  • Both Equally
  • Man (Mostly)
  • Man (Always)
  • It doesn't matter to me; I don't give it any thought


You will not be able to change your vote.


Karin W

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 11:47am

Welcome to the ML forum.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 11-29-2007
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 12:55pm

I agree it's more of a HL / LL question, rather than Man/Woman.


I voted "Woman Mostly", mainly because she's the LL......NORMALLY I'd be initiating most of the time.....but at the moment I'm in a place where I'm really maxed-out on the rejections, and starting to get very resentful.....so I just don't bother very often lately.

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 3:31pm
It's the same way with us.
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Registered: 04-14-2008
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 8:34am

Labeling it simply a HL/LL issue presumes that men and women are similar or even identical in their wants/needs. While men are sexually aroused largely (not entirely so don't start preaching) by visual stimulation by A lot of women derive satisfaction in having a man "into" them. An example of that is a lot of women enjoy giving oral sex as much as receiving it because it turns us on that we are turning a guy on.

So it's not that my husband doesn't have a high enough libido, again whenever I suggest it we do it, it's that I feel unattractive or not desirable enough because he doesn't start things up.

My questions really was to see haw common this is in long-term married couples.

Karin W
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Registered: 11-07-2007
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 9:04am

<< Labeling it simply a HL/LL issue presumes that men and women are similar or even identical in their wants/needs. >>


Labeling it a HL/LL issue specifically does NOT make any presumptions about men and women, because it acknowledges that HL/LL is NOT limited by gender... i.e. there are

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 9:44am

I think you and I are not using the same definition of libido.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 02-03-2008
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 10:18am

I voted woman mostly.

 

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 10:21am

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Again, this is not as gender specific you seem to think. A lot of HLs, men and women, derive most of their satisfaction from how their partner reacts to them. There are countless examples of that on this board.

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 9:11pm
...I am the LL in my relationship, but it's all relative...I could easily be satisfied with 3-4 times a week, my man enjoys some sort of sexual activity everyday...our special time is in the morning...just works for us with young children and grandchildren...and, as he usually wakes me up with an erection in my back, I guess that counts as initiation...but, if we are able to grab a "nooner" during the day, I usually initiate...as he is always concerned about my studies and activities...













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Registered: 09-30-2007
Fri, 09-05-2008 - 4:45am
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