Wishing for more Intimacy
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|Wed, 03-09-2005 - 2:31pm|
It's seems that there are many out here like me even if my friends don't have this issue. I've been married almost four years and we've been together almost 6. Things were great at first but of course with time and schedules the libido tends to dwindle. At least for the longest time we maintained a few times each month... I was very happy.
In the past year or so it's became more like once a month or even months between times. When we do make love it's wonderful, we try to be creative and he actually cares about satifying me. I've mentioned several times that I would like to be intimate more often. I've attempted to initiate sex by kisses, sexy lingerie, massages. Everything except...vocalling saying "I want sex now or grabbing him and throwing him down on the bed." I don't feel I should have to ask for it... it just doesn't set the mood and I feel really uncomfortable.
We have no children and he adamately wants them... I keep explaining that it's impossible to have children when we aren't intimate on a regular basis. I do want children but my biological clock just isn't ticking just yet and least of all thinking "what on earth will our sex life become with a baby in the house?"
We have a wonderful relationship and marriage, he truly is the love of my life. He's very loving, kind and affectionate. But it's getting scary when you have such a great relationship and you find yourself lusting over someone else just because you're not being intimate with your spouse.
Part of his problem could be that he works a labor intensive job and he's tired... but I know he's had relationships in the past with girls that demanded sex regularly... I just can't understand why I can't get it weekly?
Thanks for listening I would appreciate any suggestions.