anyone else with a selective low libido?

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anyone else with a selective low libido?
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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 3:01am

I posted somewhere else on another board about sex being painful. Anyway, I have never had a high libido. Ever ever. Anyway, I do enjoy sex, just very very very rarely. (when I do enjoy it, it still hurts at least

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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 6:48am

>> I posted somewhere else on another board about sex being painful. Anyway, I have never had a high libido. Ever ever. Anyway, I do enjoy sex, just very very very rarely. (when I do enjoy it, it still hurts at least

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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 6:53am
I used to have that problem too.
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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 8:50am

>> Make sure he knows he needs to preheat the oven before he tries to insert the turkey.

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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 12:15pm

I always finish when he gives me oral sex before sex. I Probably shouldn't. That way, he'll leave me wanting more. But I agree to not finishing first, and then once he starts, well I can't stop.


I'll give a better description of how sex goes at my house.

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 12:35pm

Heya, ekusmma......welcome to the board.

 

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 2:48pm

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A bit of a dumb question, perhaps. I'm curious how you determine when you are aroused (absent wetness). Does your heart beat faster? Are your nipples hard? Do you feel "tingly" in the genital area or elsewhere? Or do you just feel physically and/or mentally "into" the proceedings?

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 3:31pm

"A bit of a dumb question, perhaps. I'm curious how you determine when you are aroused (absent wetness). Does your heart beat faster? Are your nipples hard? Do you feel "tingly" in the genital area or elsewhere? Or do you just feel physically and/or mentally "into" the proceedings?"


Hmmm can't speak for anyone else but for me:


1) My muscles start to relax (before this stage, I am fidgety/restless)


2) Warmth and/or tingles

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 4:42pm

locogirlp, you really read my mind.


My sister actually has those two things as well. I can never remember the name of the disorders though.


My aunt, and my mom have said sex hurt, but I don't know for how long.


A long time ago, I used to post on this board under another name. Someone told me it was in my head.


I am sure it is in my head sometimes, but I don't imagine pain. Especially, when my husband can sometimes feel me literally relax.


I am glad I am not the only one that has these problems though.


Someone to talk to.


I tend to prefer quickies because sex hurts less that way.


My husband, not so much.


I would say it depends on how I feell about how I decide if I am aroused or not.


Sometimes if we have been kissing for a while, I can tell I'm ready.


Other times, we don't do anything and all of a sudden, I'll be horny. I could see how not doing any foreplay in that situation would make it hurt because of the lack of lube.


But other times though, even if we have major foreplay, and I am wet, it will still hurt.


I think my body is slowly slowly getting used to it.

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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 11:47am

<<>>


Well

 

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Registered: 02-21-2003
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 12:33pm

Hi Loco,

Thanks for your evocative description. It's interesting how the prelude to merging generates greater arousal than the actual merging. I'm exactly the same way.

F.

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