Calling all LL males!

I seriously don't get why with men we always want to say it is something else, but with women we accept that they are just LL. Why is not always something else with women too? My husband has been tested and treated for just about anything that might be a factor in making him LL. He is in therapy. He will admit that he just does not have that much of a sex drive. He likes having it, but does not see a big push to have it. Physically he is healthy. He had periods in life that he had ED, but it was more a effect of the LL than a cause. He "talked" himself into not being able to perform because he knew I had a higher libido and that he could not keep up. He admits it was all mental.

The reason many LL men don't admit it is because society says they should like sex. I see where many LL women get the same signals from society, but it is much easier for a woman to find another woman who also has a LL and does not really enjoy sex. Especially when married, it is "normal" for a woman not to feel like having sex all the time, or at least it is accepted that the man be the one to dominate sexually. Most men don't like being dominated by women in any circumstances, let alone the bed. The male has always been seen as the dominate one in the relationship and to admit that they have no libido goes against that norm.

The lack of LL men on this board does not mean that they do not exist any more than the lack of women who only will have sex in the missionary position on the Taboo board means that they don't exist. You are asking in the wrong forum.