Just lost an entire post. Grrr.
I'm more concerned if it was a consensual situation and only b/c someone that knew him before me used to make snide comments about him being in jail the last time (she was his landlord and she was angry that he was put in and left her without a tenant, which I thought was incredibly selfish since she had someone to take his place in weeks and he had paid two months in adavance) and maybe finding a BF and he's not in the least bit "girly" and when I confronted him on this years ago he became very offended that I would even think that and the person that said this to me was a friend of mine for 20 years and around this time, became very spiteful and judgmental to me and we never spoke again, so she "planted the bug" in my ear, so to speak. I don't think anything happened while he was there because it was a low maximum prison, only for DUI's ... nothing but alcohol or drug busts, i.e. pot or prescription drug abuse. I'm just afraid that he thinks I'm old and this is now just a matter of convenience living here.
Am not sure what a ML is..but I get more affection from my cats and also doesn't help thinking, maybe I worry tthat he's not interested in me in that way anymore. I just don't understand. I didn't sign on for a roommate or do I have to give up on my wine as it may be the "speed bump" here. I almost one to say one of us needs to sleep on the couch in the living room b/c it's too depressing and disappointing in the bedroom. Now the cuddling has stopped as well. I'm at my wits end.
Did you have ML in previous relationships? Are you looking for validation of your sexuality from him? From all of the other things he does for you, maybe he is trying to show love in other ways through "acts of service" instead of the "physical touch" which you are craving right now. He may not be ready for a physically sexual relationship right now, and your frustration may be feeling like pressure to him to perform sexually for you.
You need to figure out what is more important, getting your sexual needs met or staying in this relationship. Because, like I said before, he is not ready for that right now. Do you have the patience to wait this out with him?
Rationally, I know that, but personally and emotionally, it upsets me. He wouildn't even snuggle with me last night and I decided to stay in my bedroom until noon as "punishment" and he was saying good morning and telling me all the things he's going to do at our place, working on it and made him dinner - just hot dogs, and cookies, but, I need some loving too! Even if it's just cuddling. And he doesn't hesitate to tell me he loves me... but it hits my "hot spots" without hitting any spot, if you know what I mean...
That's exactly what I was thinking, too.
Mag, it could have absolutely nothing to do with you.