Delurking, ISO Advice and help

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Registered: 10-28-2007
Delurking, ISO Advice and help
Sun, 10-28-2007 - 4:39pm

To make it short ... we're both 47, both have numerous health issues, but he has always had a HL, I've always had a LL, but we've somehow managed to make it work out.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Sun, 10-28-2007 - 5:08pm

Hi Max,

Well-first of all, welcome to our little group! We're a mixed bag, that's for sure!

Off the get go, the one thing that seems to yell out at me is that it appears as though you haven't been pleased w/ his overtures or his sexual connection to you-IOW, perhaps he wasn't doing the things sexually/intimately that you enjoy and/or needed and with time, I'm sure that could kill anyone's libido. I had a friend once that said to me, "Elyse, why WOULD I want him? The only time he touches me is to grab my breasts and say to me; 'how's the twins!" Yes, not a huge turn on for many-certainly not for me, I am the higher libido person in my relationship.

Not saying that IS the case, just something that popped into my head while I read your post. Add to that when folks sort of digress to their own side to things, rather than look at or try to envision the other person's side and well, things just get tougher.

The one thing that would help, is if you two could truly hear