Depression & No Libido

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Depression & No Libido
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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 3:32pm

I'm a 25 yr old who's suffered with Serious Depression since childhood. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years today. In the beginning, our sex life was 'flourishing', to say the least. We'd have sex or at least some type of intimate contact at least once a day. After our 3rd year together and on up to the present, many devistating events have occured....His Mom died, My brother died, I most recently lost my job...etc. Through therapy I had gained control of my depression, but in the last year I feel it's hit me harder than ever. Aside from the array of aspects of my life that this directly effects, my sex drive is now basically null. Though my boyfriend tries to be understanding, I've noticed that this has inherently effected him also. Now he just waits for me to initiate it. I still think he's one of the most attractive men on the face of this planet, I just don't feel any sense of passion anymore...as if I'm absolutely numb. Among other things, we scarcely even "french" kiss anymore. We are supposed to get married 1 year from today. If we...better yet, if I can't solve this issue now, I'm not sure that there's any reason to do so. Any advice?...
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Registered: 07-20-2006
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 4:37pm

Greetings houstonuptowngirl.


First I wanted to offer sincere condolences on the losses of your brother and your fiancee's Mother. This is something I've yet to endure, but I can empathize with you both