Thank you for your honesty lisa613.
my sex toy,...Im with ya from #3 all the way down 100%.
I don't think people necessarily say the truth when they're on something.
In the mean time,.."bootytime" will no longer be getting any booty from the wife cuz he's pissed off!
You can choose not to be pissed off. Here are some reasons why you might choose not to be:
1. She might not have said anything because she didn't want to hurt your feelings or get in an argument. Maybe she thought she could grow to accept you the way you are. All of which is her doing her best to be positive and non-judgmental toward you. When you think about it, which pound gained should be the pound that should trigger "the talk"? Maybe she's only guilty of procrastination. Think about the situation in reverse, putting yourself in her shoes. You love your wife; you want to have a happy, harmonious marriage--how eager are you to drop the bomb about her weight? Do you want to be that guy? If the situation were reversed, you might be on this forum pissed off about your wife insensitively "letting herself go" and why does anyone need to be told that that's bad for a marriage?
2. As I said in my earlier post, she might not even be aware of her aversion to your weight. That would explain the fact that she saw all these doctors and talked about all these possible solutions and the issue never came up. If it had been in the forefront of her mind and "the issue", why would she have seen even a single doctor? She would have known it would have been a waste of time, money and effort.
3. Be glad she's not turned off by some aspect of your looks that's irreversible or extremely difficult to reverse or that requires painful, expensive surgery to fix. This is relatively easy to work on and it will improve your health and make you feel better in the process. What if you were losing your hair and that turned her off? Or developing varicose veins? Or stretch marks? Or wrinkles? Or saggy eyes? Or what if she suddenly decided she couldn't stand the way you
I know you're pissed and sometimes anger can act as a very healthy stimulus to action - if you use it in the right way.
HOWEVER - I don't think you're proceeding in the best way if your objective is to improve your marriage and ML.
You are pissed off?
When you see it coming, duck!
I wouldn't assume the worst just yet about her physical attraction to you...I think you're being too hard on yourself.
Let the anger get you started but after a while, you will simply crave the feeling of being strong, carrying yourself like a young man,