DH visual turn off = Low Libido DW?

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DH visual turn off = Low Libido DW?
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Thu, 09-30-2010 - 10:07am

Hi everyone.

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Registered: 09-14-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 1:16pm

"Your wife took Ambien, and you had sex with her?

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Registered: 12-10-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 1:20pm

I know men hear this time and time again, but:

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:05pm
...no, no, no...this is where you should blow up...much better than blowing up at your wife...blow up here...
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:13pm

lol, yes, by all means, vent away. Just expect to be called on the carpet about it. Its a very effective and useful way to "get your perspective on," before interacting with your spouse.

roo and snowy siggie
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Registered: 09-06-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:40pm

>>>In Bettina Arndt's book, there's a whole chapter on Laundry doesn't get you Laid.<<<



ITA.






Edited 10/2/2010 5:27 pm ET by darling.carly
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Registered: 05-31-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:45pm
DH pitching in and helping me in whatever I'm doing, while not making me "hot" does show a level of care and concern that means a lot to me. And to be honest, if I had to do all the "domestic" work in the house, as well as attend to the children, and my studies without him showing that care and concern....I'd probably be far less likely practice sex on demand.
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:48pm

I think "housework help" to some women is sort of like ML to some men. Not much of a big deal unless they aren't getting any, and if they aren't getting any it becomes a HUGE deal.

roo and snowy siggie
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:49pm

I'm totally with you on the gender distinctive roles with one exception... a woman who knows how to use a power tool correctly.



I compare it to my desire for the occasional beastly, WOT, taking charge

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Registered: 09-06-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:10pm
ITA with you and Tiptoeing both. If he's not considerate and doesn't see and help with the burdens then who even wants to talk to him, much less have sex with him. It's kind of a rude cliche though, like they are assuming he's a jerk who doesn't help. So then they've got all these poor guys running around the house with the feather duster to turn her on.
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Registered: 02-03-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:17pm
...I'm with Glenn and candy...I do not like my husband doing housework for a variety of reasons...BUT, I want to do the yard work...he's retired (19 years older) and does a lot of stuff (golf, biking..volunteering)...so, I do the housework and have been "granted" the gift of housework...killing spiders, unclogging commodes...noises in the night...keeping the master card paid...servicing the cars...he's welcome to it...