DH visual turn off = Low Libido DW?

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DH visual turn off = Low Libido DW?
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Thu, 09-30-2010 - 10:07am

Hi everyone.

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 4:31pm

I had a gf like that in middle school. She rode dirt bikes, hunted, even

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Registered: 09-06-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 4:00pm

Here, we usually split it up by the traditional gender roles just because it's what we're used to and like. The difference is power and choice, which is shared equally. ;o)






Edited 10/2/2010 5:23 pm ET by darling.carly
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Registered: 05-31-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:58pm

It's not, and that is the point. Yard work is not an inherently masculine feat either, imho. Maybe my problem is that my Father didn't have any sons, and so I learned to hunt, fish, work on cars, ect. Of course, I also learned to sew, crochet, cook, and quilt from my Mom.

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:33pm
...no, you shouldn't shoo him from the kitchen...of course not...I'm just writing what I find the norm...
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Registered: 05-04-2006
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:32pm

a spider is not an insect, it's an arachnid.

I kill all the bugs and dispose of any dead rodents in the garage as well, because in addition to being a dickhead, my DH is also a pu~~y

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:30pm

It must be Friday LOL



Since when is handling a spider a masculine feat? Come on, an armed intruder or an obstinate mother-in-law -

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Registered: 05-31-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:26pm

We don't kill spiders, I take them outside where they belong. And if the toilet clogs and he's gone I deal with it. I can change my own oil and do like doing yard work. I don't believe in "gender specific" roles, per se. DH likes to cook and he's good at it, should I just shoo him from the kitchen and tell him "no matter that you can whip up an amazing meal....that's woman's work!"

And I certainly wouldn't want him telling me "Don't you dare catch that spider, that's my job! And why aren't you standing on the table screaming?"

We do what we are good at, and it works for us. He does yard work because he wants to and I pitch in because I enjoy it.

For the most part the standing rule in the house is "whoever is here when it needs to be done does it".

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:17pm
...I'm with Glenn and candy...I do not like my husband doing housework for a variety of reasons...BUT, I want to do the yard work...he's retired (19 years older) and does a lot of stuff (golf, biking..volunteering)...so, I do the housework and have been "granted" the gift of housework...killing spiders, unclogging commodes...noises in the night...keeping the master card paid...servicing the cars...he's welcome to it...
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Registered: 09-06-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 3:10pm
ITA with you and Tiptoeing both. If he's not considerate and doesn't see and help with the burdens then who even wants to talk to him, much less have sex with him. It's kind of a rude cliche though, like they are assuming he's a jerk who doesn't help. So then they've got all these poor guys running around the house with the feather duster to turn her on.
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:49pm

I'm totally with you on the gender distinctive roles with one exception... a woman who knows how to use a power tool correctly.



I compare it to my desire for the occasional beastly, WOT, taking charge

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