Do LLs want to feel sexually attractive?

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Do LLs want to feel sexually attractive?
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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 1:32pm

Ok I'm spinning this question off from another thread because the concept is confusing to me. So maybe I can be enlightened.
Do LLs feel want, need or desire in anyway to be viewed as sexually attractive?

Dirty

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Fri, 10-26-2007 - 5:52pm

I've been thinking about this question for a couple of days. When

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 9:28am

Just because you're LL doesn't mean you're immune to the ego-boost of being viewed as sexually attractive. However, it's a bonus for me rather than a deep need. Like Annie, I enjoy being viewed as attractive in the general sense.

F.

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 12:12pm

>>Just because you're LL doesn't mean you're immune to the ego-boost of being viewed as >>sexually attractive. However, it's a bonus for me rather than a deep need. Like Annie, I >>enjoy being viewed as attractive in the general sense.

There is a big difference between being seen as sexually attractive and good looking in a general sense. I'm in a corporate sales arena, which is predominantly male. Even though I am not out to attract my customers I too find it important to look good. DW doesn't understand why I where cologne to meetings & work. But I as an HL males enjoy when I lock eyes and smile with a female passing by. It is a clear sign that there is an attraction. And it really does feel good to be sexually attractive to someone. But that again is from a HL perspective.

Dirty

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 12:22pm

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 3:28pm

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I never denied this. Both can be good for the ego.

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 4:10pm

>>When I lock eyes and smile at people it isn't a sign of sexual attraction. It's an >>exchange of general good will.

So then you do this with both men and women?

Dirty

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 6:10pm
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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 8:56pm

Unless your attracted to both sexes and BTW no problem here with that.
But thats not the locking eyes and smiling I'm talking about.
I'm talking about that lock on and turn of the head that says hmmmm

Dirty

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Sun, 10-28-2007 - 12:58am
Oh, yes I do want to be viewed as sexually attractive. It is important to me.
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Sun, 10-28-2007 - 2:31pm

Dirty,

Going along with this, I think that LLs are inherently less sexually attractive than individuals with higher libidos. Although they may be 'pretty' or 'handsome', they just don't exude the same kind of sexual energy. In contrast, I find some less 'pretty' women to be VERY attractive because of the sexual energy they radiate. A woman I used to work with, for instance, I would have NEVER thoght attractive from a photo, but she was VERY attractive because of her playful personality. I could TELL that she was sexual. In contrast, there have been traditionally beautiful women whom I do not find attractive becuase of their colder, less playful personalities- I could tell they were NOT sexual.

Now I think this only applies to "constitutional" LL, because if one is just not attracted to one's mate s/he could still radiate sexual energy towards those s/he finds attractive.

-dadguy

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