He just doesn't want it as much as I do
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|Sun, 04-11-2010 - 5:19pm|
I went back to work part time in order to take some of the stress off of DH who was so obviously overworked and stressed by having to support the family alone. He isn't working as much and has more time to spend with the family as he desired. I thought this would resolve our problems.
Since our daughter was born (almost 2 years ago) we fell out of rhythm. We used to have sex at least once a week, now it's down to once a month at most. It has been up to once every 3-4 months. This is killing me!
I gave up him initiating as he used to and started taking things into my own hands however he always says he is too tired and "reschedules." Only to say that he is too tired again. I get that he is tired, as am I, but I think that it is important for our relationship.
It is not like the romance is completely gone either, he is still loving and affectionate outside of the bedroom. We are still as in love, if not more than when we started dating.
I try to get him to talk but he just says that it is nothing and he is tired. It obviously isn't nothing since it has so drastically taken a down turn.
I thought it might be something physical since he will be 50 in a couple of years, but he has no problems performing when it comes down to it. The trouble is just in getting him to that point.
Any suggestions/comments? I am open to anything!