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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 4:56pm
Hello Im Katie. When i first met my SO we were just fine. We had sex all the time there were no issues. Well then i had our son. He is 16 months old now and I still have no sex drive. I love my SO but i just never feel in the mood. After i had my son i suffered from PPD and started taking anti depressants also i started taking birth control. Well i have since then stopped taking antidepressants for many months now. I still have no sex drive. I feel so horrible. It has caused so many fights. I understand that men express there love through sex and by me not wanting to have sex he feels like i dont love him. He knows i do love him but it is really hard to deal with he feels shot down. Im planning to stop taking my birth control to see if that has any effect at all. Has anyone else had a similiar problem or have any advice for me?
siggyme
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 7:17pm

Hello, and welcome to the forum.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 10-10-2007 - 8:35am

holdingontoit,


No need to respond to me

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Sun, 10-14-2007 - 6:01pm




I've been lurking a bit and decided to respond to you Katie.


You're busy chasing around a 16 month old, and you wonder why you aren't in the mood for sex?

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 6:16pm
Yes that is exaclty it. Thank you for understanding. I am going to talk with df tonight so we will see how it goes.
siggyme
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Mon, 10-15-2007 - 11:26am

Take a quick look at your signature.

When you see it coming, duck!

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 11:51am
wow i never noticed about my siggy and blinkies. you are right but he sees it as he works all week and i sit at home on my ass all day (im a stay at home mom). He keeps stressing that he busts his ass off all day at work. He doesnt understand what i do all day. We had a huge fight yesterday and it ended up being all about who does what. I finally just stopped arguing and said why are we fighting about who does what all day this isnt getting anywhere. We are planning to go to a counselor to learn how to better communicate. Im going to my gyno next week to talk about the birth control and the effects it might be having. I love him and i want to fix this. thanks for the advice everyone. I was just really looking for someone to tell me that im not crazy and this does happen to people all the time. pretty much that im not the only one. any advice is much appreciated.
siggyme
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Registered: 12-05-2006
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 11:58am

I just imagined you waking your DH up on his day off with a kiss goodbye. Arrange some work for just that day and tell him, "I forgot to tell you I have a paying job today so I had better go so I'm not late. Have a wonderful day off be sure to

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Registered: 08-02-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 2:13pm
that would be funny!!!
siggyme
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Sat, 10-20-2007 - 12:05am
(((HUGS)))
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Sat, 10-20-2007 - 9:38am
thank you
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