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|Sun, 01-20-2008 - 1:09am|
Hi all. I'm Lindsay, 24 years old and I'm living with my boyfriend of 1.5 years, we just moved in together in October. I'm sure you get these questions all the time and I tried reading through some old posts, but it's 1:00 am, I'm tired, but I can't sleep and we just had another fight about not having sex.
Basically, I don't know how to make him understand that this is not all about him. He wants it ALL the time, I'm lucky if I'm interested once a week. He gropes me at least twice a day and gets all defensive when I tell him to stop. This is our second fight this week about this issue and I hate going to bed angry at each other. My issues come from me being overweight....I feel ugly and fat and I hate the way I look naked. I know he loves me for me, but he just doesn't understand why I can't put those feelings aside to make him happy. I also think I'm struggling with some issues with mild depression, but have not yet gotten to the dr to talk with him about it. BF seems to think that me taking a pill will make all of our problems go away.
It's gotten to the point where I feel bad about myself because I know I'm not making him happy. I love him dearly and I would be devastated if we broke up. We both know we want to get married someday and I am terrified he isn't going to want to marry me because of this. He says he would be lost without me, but I've seen men do some crazy things for sex. I don't know what to do, I'm at my wits end....any advice anyone could offer I would hugely appreciate. Thanks in advance.